Becoming Hasemans

The early release slideshow

Mon, 11 Jul 2011 11:32:00 -0400

An early look at the slideshow put together by our photographers.

A Most Soggy of Curses

Sat, 25 Jun 2011 15:21:00 -0400

We Hasemans have a curse. Whenever we travel, and by ‘travel’ I mean ‘leave home for more than one night’, it rains.

I’m not kidding. It rains.
every.
single.
time.
We’ve brought rain to Los Angles and Australia in the middle of major droughts.

My parents, god bless their itchy wool socks, have burned out two separate sets of automobile windshield wiper motors. I’ve never even heard of another human being burning through even one.

Why, you might ask, does the rain god favor us with his un-ending love every time any one of us set foot outside our zip code? I’ve no idea, but I will pay you good money to figure it out for me and make him stop.

As a child, I spent many a rain-soaked year camping out with the cub and boyscouts. My father, bless his Birkenstocked feet, felt it was important to be involved with the leadership of our troop. He was given the offical title of Dr. Doom as we’d counted 3 camp-outs in more than 10 years of scouting in which it didn’t rain.

Yesterday, as my wife (now Meghan Haseman) and I were driving up to our mini honeymoon (four days at the Sagamore hotel on Lake George) through the pouring rain I turned to her and sheepishly said: “I’m afraid there’s something I need to tell you”

She listened, in horrified silence, as I relayed the above story. ”So it’s going to rain every time we go on vacation anywhere?”

“Yup.”, I whispered, “if you wanted to go on sunny trips I’m afraid you probably should have married someone else.”

“Well, ” Meghan laughed as she sat back in the passenger seat while our windshield wipers frantically tried to let me see the road, ”…bring it on.”

and this is why I love my wife.

(Chris) All geared up for our mini-honeymoon (or minimoon) This...

Fri, 24 Jun 2011 09:13:00 -0400

(Chris) All geared up for our mini-honeymoon (or minimoon) This is me going on an ‘unplugged’ weekend. I think I might have a problem…

Mrs. Haseman here...

Wed, 15 Jun 2011 11:23:37 -0400

We did it! I still get a contact high just looking at the pictures and smelling the flowers we brought home. All in all, I am incredibly lucky to say that the wedding was an overwhelmingly positive experience. There really are no words that do it justice. I think my brain is still trying to catch up!

One thing I find interesting about the post-wedding feeling — MY HUSBAND and I had the same thought on this — is that it’s very similar to the post-show slump that happens to theatre folks after closing night. There’s a sense of loss after so much excitement and happiness. Also, for me and my Mom, there’s a scramble to fill the void that wedding planning once occupied. Then I remember that I’ve got to change my name, do some organizing/nesting/cleaning (so many wonderful gifts for the home!) and write the thank you notes!

What an amazing journey from beginning (engagement) to “end” (post-wedding-brunch). I’m not sure how to say thank you to my Mom and Dad for being so completely wonderful throughout the entire experience. We have the most amazing memories of a very special day and are so grateful to have had everyone there — either in person or in spirit. I’m delighted beyond words.

Photo

Wed, 15 Jun 2011 10:17:48 -0400

Photo

Mon, 13 Jun 2011 13:14:30 -0400

We've done it! (Chris here)

Mon, 13 Jun 2011 11:10:00 -0400

After 7 years in a committed relationship, a year of planning, and more work from Meghan than I can fathom. We actually are Hasemans now.

Thank you to all who traveled so far to see us
Thank you to all who helped us
Thanks to all who were there in spirit but couldn’t make it person
A special thank you to Meghan’s Father who’s patience and understanding is a thing of legend. Thank you so much for your daughters hand.

We’re overwhelmed with the generosity and love from all those who have been with us through the last 7 years.

Pictures will follow.

today's the day

Sat, 11 Jun 2011 07:47:00 -0400

Chris here. I will say this about the big event:

There comes a point when there’s nothing left to prepare and all you can do is keep on breathing, not freak out, and hope to god you’re worthy… also, remember to wear pants

Doing it wrong

Sat, 11 Jun 2011 00:53:21 -0400

Doing it wrong:

From Cal. How not to do wedding photos

three by three, cups of gree… nevermind

Sat, 11 Jun 2011 00:46:40 -0400

three by three, cups of gree… nevermind

How I roll to rehearsal dinner. The shoes are key

Sat, 11 Jun 2011 00:43:58 -0400

How I roll to rehearsal dinner. The shoes are key

3 days...

Thu, 09 Jun 2011 16:21:59 -0400

It’s starting to get more real to me. Last minute logistics, people arriving, trying to arrange rides…

Had a great night out with Sparks, Micah, and Conor last night.

If you’re flying in today, let us know you’re in town, it’d be great to meet up with anyone who’s in NYC tonight.

I’m going to keep the beard. Also, this is my haircut

Wed, 08 Jun 2011 13:24:47 -0400

I’m going to keep the beard. Also, this is my haircut

How adorable!

Wed, 08 Jun 2011 11:56:00 -0400

From the post bin:

“I can only hope that should the time come when I could be called a bridezilla, that my partner-in-crime would dodge the fires and work with me, not against. You guys are too cute!”

a more recent photo of us

Tue, 07 Jun 2011 11:01:59 -0400

a more recent photo of us

the care and feeding of your Bride-zilla

Tue, 07 Jun 2011 09:48:00 -0400

Chris here! Before I write another word (and because I like my face exactly the way it is) let me say that Meghan has been a towering fortress of will and patience about our wedding. Honestly, she’s been amazing (and I’m not just saying that because she’s standing behind me with a pair of scissors).

As we’ve been planning this wedding for over a year now, I’d like to pass on a few notes I’ve made about the care and feeding of your bride-zilla during the process.

My first tip is the most important piece of advice I can give anyone who’s about to tie the knot:

Marry Someone Amazing

No amount of chocolate and flowers can compensate for someone who isn’t incredible. Hopefully you knew this before you proposed, but it helps to be reminded.

Chocolate and Flowers

That said, keep a ready supply of interesting distractions at hand whenever possible. Every Bride-zilla is different. Some respond to chocolate, others to jewelry, still others to power tools (watch out for those). When she breathes deeply through her nose after a particularly onerous conversation with a difficult vendor or family member, don’t ask ‘what happened?’ as it will only enrage her more. A quick distraction is your best bet here.

Have an Opinion

When your bride-zilla asks what color the tablecloth accents under the centerpiece should be. You have three options:
1) Panic: “Whatever you think is best babe.” (Rookie move)
2) Play some Jazz: “What’s a color that goes with the secondary hue of the flowers? I can grab a color chart!” (Better move)
3) Make an inside joke: “I’m not sure… what tablecloth accent color really completes us as a couple?” When she laughs and doesn’t murder you, revert back to option 2. (Pro move)

(A note on #3: You have to lay the groundwork for that inside joke months ahead of time. Bust that sucker out right on the spot and you’ll likely be wearing a pair of decorative scissors….. in your face)

Never Ever Ever Say: “Don’t Worry About That” (or DWAT)

I pulled the DWAT rookie move several times and thankfully my Bridezilla didn’t attack. It’s possibly the stupidest thing you could let out of your mouth. Think about it, when was the last time you said “Stop being Upset” to anyone and it actually worked? Right. Never.

There’s nothing Bridezillas hate more than being told their frustration isn’t justified, and rightfully so.

That’s my short list for the care and feeding of your Bridezilla. On a related note, if you’re marrying someone who doesn’t mind being referred to as the ‘bridezilla’ you’ve picked a winner. (Just hide anything sharp before you try it)

Working on my vows...

Mon, 06 Jun 2011 21:45:15 -0400

Although they’re not nearly as good as Chris’ rejected ones.

Let’s see…

I vow to never do the Chicken Dance in your presence, ever again.

I promise to never force you to watch a Romantic Comedy starring or featuring Gerard Depardieu

5 days... and how not to write vows

Mon, 06 Jun 2011 18:24:00 -0400

Last minute logistics, mostly in how to get everyone up to the venue, are starting to come together. The last obstacle for me (Chris) is in writing my Vows. This is, as they say, a big deal.

I think it safe to say, at this point, that we’re both waiting for some big emergency to come up.

In any case, here are few vows you will not hear me saying on Saturday.

-I vow to buy you an XBox 360

-I promise, that I am not a member of any state sponsored secret security apparatus.

-I promise to kill you, as painlessly and quickly as possible, if you’re bitten, rather than letting you turn into a zombie.

-I swear I won’t sell you into slavery.

-I am the walrus.

The to.go pile starts

Mon, 06 Jun 2011 09:59:10 -0400

The to.go pile starts

A much younger Chris and Meghan. Wow, thank you Suzy!

Fri, 03 Jun 2011 17:42:14 -0400

A much younger Chris and Meghan. Wow, thank you Suzy!